I have a confession to make. It has been months since I last thought about uploading any new content to this blog. Here’s a statement we’ve all probably made: life got in the way. You see, much has changed in my life from the time I thought I’d start a sweet little blog detailing how you can DIY life on the cheap. For starters, we decided to sell that little beach cottage that contained all of our hard work and renovation ideas. The views were serene but the neighbors weren’t the kind you’d want to invite over for dinner, if you catch my drift. We learned that we valued privacy, peace and solitude over those stunning water vistas. As a result, the tiny beach cottage in a high density neighborhood hit the market and we went under contract for a beautifully renovated home on a couple of acres.
During that time of transition, we also assisted my family relocate from Florida to Washington-I guess my recruiting skills are up to snuff! I traveled heavily for my new role in my sales career (51 flights to date and countless other road trips). Lastly, I relished in the freedom of finishing my master’s program which meant no more mandatory group forums, research papers or tests! To summarize, I lost my motivation to work on this pipe dream of mine.
We’ve all been there. We want to lose weight, go back to school, open a small business, etc. Then life hits hard and we derail from our goals. How do we get back on track? I’ve put together a list of small steps that you can take to regain your motivation and persevere through those inevitable challenges you’ll encounter as you change your life.
- Carve out 10 minutes each day for your goal. This mini allocation of time is truly the epitome of baby steps. It’s no secret that we’re all preoccupied with thousands of other to-do list tasks screaming for our attention. Find your most peaceful time of day whether that is in the morning, at lunchtime, or in the evening when everyone else has fallen asleep and devote ten short minutes to your objective each day. At the end of two weeks, check out your progress and marvel at what you’ve accomplished in just 140 minutes.
- Identify your “why”. What was your initial inspiration to begin your goal? Are you wanting to lose weight to improve your health? Are you starting a small business to gain financial independence? Are you returning to school to open up your career possibilities? Now think about the why behind that first why. If you lost weight and improved your health, would you now be able to traverse the Pacific Crest Trail with your buddies? If you started that small business and gained financial freedom, would you now have more time to spend with your family or give back to your community? If you completed a degree and changed career fields, would you now have the ability to move to a new, desired location? This task may seem tedious but it helps you remain focused on your intended plans and cognizant of your true intentions. In other words, are you completing your project or life change for the correct reasons?
- Give yourself grace. It’s okay to stumble. It’s okay to retreat and regroup. Grant yourself some time to “figure things out” and don’t get hung up on your immediate failures. You’ve heard the saying “minor setback for a major comeback?” Embrace this philosophy and appreciate the growth that comes from struggles.
- Seek out counsel. Speak to others who have had success in your desired area of change. Like an iceberg, there’s much more to their story than just that top picture of achievement we likely perceive. Learn what obstacles they faced and how they overcame them. Ask what resources they found along the way to their dream. Maybe you’ll even gain a mentor out of your efforts!
- Reward yourself for progress. Indicate what milestones you’d like to hit then celebrate those events when you reach each one. Involve others in your journey who can cheer with you as you soar through each hurdle. If your goal is to exercise daily, go buy yourself some performance gear once you hit 7 days of success! Reminder: it’s important to commemorate your positive goal execution with a reward that is not counterintuitive to your objective.
Trite as it may be to state, your life truly is a journey and not a race. With a positive perspective on obstacles, you can better appreciate the stumbling blocks you encounter. So you’re facing challenges-simply put, you are alive. Best of luck, y’all! I hope to read about your own successes soon!